Triangualtion Toolkit
Triangulation Toolkit
When anxiety rises between two people, a third person may become the messenger, mediator, rescuer, confidant, ally, or emotional regulator.
Created as a companion to The Path to Peace Therapy Podcast episode, “What Is Triangulation? Why Two People Pull in a Third When Anxiety Rises,” this 13-page printable toolkit helps you identify recurring relationship triangles and return communication to the relationship where it belongs.
Grounded in Bowen Family Systems Theory, the toolkit helps you recognize the function you perform within a triangle, distinguish healthy support from alliance-building, and practice direct, differentiated communication.
Inside the toolkit:
• Triangle-Spotting Inventory
• Recurring Triangle Map
• Role-and-Function Reflection
• Healthy Support Versus Alliance-Building Guide
• Direct I-Position Communication Scripts
• Parent-Child Boundary Reset
• Personalized Detriangling Plan
• Seven-Day Direct-Relationship Experiment
• Attachment, ADHD, and OCD Considerations
• Guided Reflection and Review Pages
This toolkit is designed for couples, parents, adult children, siblings, friends, coworkers, and anyone who repeatedly feels caught in the middle of another relationship.
The goal is not to eliminate every three-person relationship. The goal is to recognize when a third person is being used to manage tension that belongs within a direct relationship.
You will receive one printable PDF digital download. No physical product will be shipped.
Created by Stephanie Buckley, AMFT, ADHD and OCD Specialist, Solution-Focused Therapist, and Family Systems Coach.
This resource is provided for psychoeducational purposes and is not a substitute for individualized mental-health treatment, diagnosis, or medical advice.
When anxiety rises between two people, a third person may become the messenger, mediator, rescuer, confidant, ally, or emotional regulator.
Created as a companion to The Path to Peace Therapy Podcast episode, “What Is Triangulation? Why Two People Pull in a Third When Anxiety Rises,” this 13-page printable toolkit helps you identify recurring relationship triangles and return communication to the relationship where it belongs.
Grounded in Bowen Family Systems Theory, the toolkit helps you recognize the function you perform within a triangle, distinguish healthy support from alliance-building, and practice direct, differentiated communication.
Inside the toolkit:
• Triangle-Spotting Inventory
• Recurring Triangle Map
• Role-and-Function Reflection
• Healthy Support Versus Alliance-Building Guide
• Direct I-Position Communication Scripts
• Parent-Child Boundary Reset
• Personalized Detriangling Plan
• Seven-Day Direct-Relationship Experiment
• Attachment, ADHD, and OCD Considerations
• Guided Reflection and Review Pages
This toolkit is designed for couples, parents, adult children, siblings, friends, coworkers, and anyone who repeatedly feels caught in the middle of another relationship.
The goal is to recognize when a third person is being used to manage tension that belongs within a direct relationship.
You will receive one printable PDF digital download. No physical product will be shipped.
Created by Stephanie Buckley, AMFT, ADHD and OCD Specialist, Solution-Focused Therapist, and Family Systems Coach.
This resource is provided for psychoeducational purposes and is not a substitute for individualized mental-health treatment, diagnosis, or medical advice.
